The Motherhood Guilt I Am Not Buying Into

During pregnancy and the newborn stage everyone expects to feel tired. When I was first pregnant I remember telling a coworker I just want to feel rejuvenated. Yup I was totally clueless about what life with a newborn was going to be like. Fast forward 3 years and I am still waiting  for that rejuvenation. I spend my days with two toddlers and by 8:30pm I am wiped. The same person that could pull an all nighter studying or partying a few (10) years ago has just enough energy to set the coffee pot and catch up on a show by 10:30pm. Is it parenthood? Is it age? Is it the constant busyness? Is it the two totally dependent toddlers at my heels?


Some nights I feel guilty for not doing more. This world sends us the message that more is better. Do more. Give more. Make more. Socialize more. Work more. Exercise more. Read more. Clean more. Spend more. Travel more. Cook more. 

I read books and articles that encourage me to wake up a little earlier to meditate or write or exercise or food prep or read or watch the sunrise because if I do I will be more productive or more successful. These ideas may work, but many times it just feels like one more thing to add to an ever growing to-do list. 


I am going to let go of the guilt and pressure of "more". Browse any social media site and you will see that motherhood adds a layer to always be doing more. I am choosing not to buy into that. I do enough. I am enough and so are you. My to do list will be to soak up the morning snuggles with my girls while I still can. To buy any food that my girls will eat since cooking for toddlers is like Hell's Kitchen every night. Go outside everyday. No expectations, just to spend some time outside before it freezes. To end the night with a goodnight and I love you for everyone in the house.

Letting go of the pressure to fill every open minute and instead to just enjoy connecting, being or relaxing. I may get a lot more accomplished in a day or hardly at all. Either way its still a good day.



1 comment:

  1. Do more. Give more. Make more. Socialize more. Work more. Exercise more. Read more. Clean more. Spend more. Travel more. Cook more.
    Whew!
    None of those are important in the long run. {:
    Baby kisses are all that matter to little ones. You don't get do overs.❤️

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